Comments on: Love or Religion: No Easy Choice

By: jhoi

jhoi — Mon, 04 Feb 2013 09:34:27 +0000

Hi Rizza,do you still together with your durzi bf? Really it’s so hard to have a durzi bf even you both have good terms in common. Yeah it depends how you will managed the relationship. That’s why i want to ask you if do you still together, what way, you can stay long together in one place without marriage and if you both from different country. So hard really, when you found the person you want to be in your life and there’s some situation like this gives you wall for living together.

By: Rizza

Rizza — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 20:06:12 +0000

moment comes wherein we don’t wanna think whats gonna be in the future…but our thoughts won’t let our mind stops from thinking..worrying..that it may end up..even you truly loves each other…but the religion doesn’t permits you to be together for life.

By: ella

ella — Sun, 26 Aug 2012 17:58:04 +0000

I have the same problem. I’m from Europe orthodox and my boyfriend is from Syria Durzi . Really I cannot understand , love is the most important thing then religion Something have to change ! As i know they have good relation with the christian people ! I dont know what to do , to stop this relationship or … :/

By: Rizza

Rizza — Sun, 19 Aug 2012 00:50:50 +0000

Hi Delya! I am a Roman Catholic and my boyfriend is a Durzi…reading how your situation is…I see that I will be facing same issue like yours in the future. According to my bf, if he will be marrying a non-durzi woman, he fears that his younger still unmarried sisters and nieces will be suffering from the consequences. Because the Durzi community will be turning their back to his family, and they(sisters and nieces) won’t be having the chance of having marriage. Sometimes marriage is not needed for as long as both of you are together, loving and believing each others love truly. Keep the faith! God will do the rest!

By: delya

delya — Thu, 17 May 2012 15:22:40 +0000

hi there im actualy facing a bad situation .My choice was a durzi guy he’s from syria and im a uzbekistan lady mixed russian with uzbek we do love eachother very much and knowing eachother for a quit long time but now the time raised for getting married and he want to do this as well as me but th e situation what we face (not yet) faced anything but going to face once we will be married as far as of reading all the comment online i finally understood that we cant be married .My L (lets call him like this) feel so dipressed about it im actually looking for a people who can suggest us something and share the life expirience the one who already marry to an non durzi lady thank you very much an advance

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:37:36 +0000

Can a male American born and raised Druze marry a Christian woman?

By: RWE

RWE — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 21:51:50 +0000

“I am saying that Armenian identity and culture can be preserved regardless of the Church and regardless of whom you marry”. Sorry, I profoundly disagree. In the real world and in particular in the Diaspora as people inevitably intermarry, and the language and other traditions die out, the Church will be the only remaining marker of that identity.

I prefer Rabbi Hillel to Shaw: “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And when I am for myself, what am ‘I’? And if not now, when?” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hillel_the_Elder

For the record I am neither Armenian nor Apostolic but someone who cares deeply about the survival of the Armenian people.

By: Liana Aghajanian

Liana Aghajanian — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 20:50:42 +0000

I have not taken issue with the Church preserving Armenian identity and culture, nor did I ever say that religion and God are not important to me. And while I’m at it, I’d like to add that I did not state it shouldn’t be important to anyone else.

I am saying that couples want to take God out of the equation because those who preach on behalf of God do not leave room to recognize that the utmost important component of the union of two people is love.

I am saying that when it comes down to choice, love wins over religion, because even in the year 2009, religion has not evolved enough to realize the core values of the needs and desires of a human being. The fact that churches separate the love a person can have for someone of a different faith as somehow interfering with the love they have for God is absurd, and when someone is forced to make a choice because of the practices of their church or religion, love should always reign supreme.

I am saying that any church that preaches love and compassion for all of human kind and then does not encourage that compassion and love when it comes to marriage is hypocritical, especially a church like the Armenian Apostolic Church that clearly states homosexuality and premarital sexual relations before marriage as being sinful. And yes, I am aware that the aforementioned church is NOT the only one who believes this.
If that’s the kind of Church you would like to believe in, then you are free to do so.

I am saying that Armenian identity and culture can be preserved regardless of the Church and regardless of whom you marry – it’s up to you to do that, not organized religion.

My intention for posting the above was not to argue the validity of how the Armenian Church has preserved culture and identity, so the last thing I can say in regards to this is a quote from George Bernard Shaw: Forgive him, for he believes that the customs of his tribe are the laws of nature.

By: RWE

RWE — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 19:06:52 +0000

I appreciate that this piece is your opinion and that it centers on events in Syria although it strikes me that you are trying to make a larger point. We can agree that individuals should have the right to marry whomever they choose and that the state has no place in limiting this decision – in other words all countries should allow civil marriages.

What’s illogical is that on the one hand you argue that many couples would like to take God out of the equation and that “the need to preserve identity by means of religion is outdated and archaic” yet you berate the Armenian Church as being hypocritical. If religion and God are not important then you shouldn’t care about the Church and religious weddings at all.

My view is that the Church, for all its failings, has preserved Armenian identity and culture for over 1700 years and continues to do so.